tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.comments2014-03-31T11:25:21.387-07:00Fledgling FeministTamihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-10894881223820304852014-03-31T11:25:21.379-07:002014-03-31T11:25:21.379-07:00I would like to cite this essay in a paper I am wr...I would like to cite this essay in a paper I am writing, I need some more information such as your last name. Please let me know.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-5261123752972363952013-08-29T18:22:47.678-07:002013-08-29T18:22:47.678-07:00Two years ago you wrote about this and it's al...Two years ago you wrote about this and it's all still there. Freedom of Speech should not exist while it removes the freedom of others.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-28551298841453099352012-12-28T16:25:39.884-08:002012-12-28T16:25:39.884-08:00A fellow librarian actually suspected the author o...A fellow librarian actually suspected the author of the Hunger Games also wrote this one, which of course isn't true! But, yes, many people had that reaction that it was a Hunger Games rip off. Actually, it was written before the Hunger Games was published since Roth started working on it in college. Often the market becomes primed for things with one work and a similar one that normally wouldn't get the attention, moves to the spotlight. I also really loved this strong female protagonist along with the healthy teen romance which is nice when I recommend this title to my students.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-35877025205018982192012-12-28T16:22:16.211-08:002012-12-28T16:22:16.211-08:00Love your response to this beautiful piece of lite...Love your response to this beautiful piece of literature. Have friended you on Goodreads to follow what else you're reading! Also, where did you find that beautiful rendering of the handmaid at the top? Gorgeous!Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-29193696640600445112012-03-11T23:02:09.474-07:002012-03-11T23:02:09.474-07:00Speaking of illegal and disturbing content, there ...Speaking of illegal and disturbing content, there are a huge number of people subscribed to /trees and /drugs, which explain how do do things like purchase illegal wares and hot do do it without getting caught. <br /><br />Shut these scumbags down!Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-80282181318194204462011-09-13T00:54:58.535-07:002011-09-13T00:54:58.535-07:00Thank you. I actually didn't think about what...Thank you. I actually didn't think about what I was saying until reading your comment. I certainly do understand why I have to answer for straight privilege when I have the privilege of passing as straight. I forgot about the fact that privilege is something you have whether you want it or not, and that its still something I have to own up to.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-21923323976192257812011-09-11T09:06:14.476-07:002011-09-11T09:06:14.476-07:00Pansexual, Bisexual, Queer, Gay, ... G_d save me...Pansexual, Bisexual, Queer, Gay, ... G_d save me from the Semantics Wars. [Making warding gestures]<br /><br />After endless navel inspection, I've decided it gives me a stiff neck. I've settled on the Popeye Philosophy: "I yam what I yam, and that's all what I yam." Mixing metaphors with an old drinking song, "... And those that don't like me, best leave me alone."Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-87983114768495201262011-09-10T18:39:16.217-07:002011-09-10T18:39:16.217-07:00I don't understand what it means to you to say...I don't understand what it means to you to say you don't think it's fair to have to answer to straight privilege. Straight privilege is something you get by falling into people's view of straight. I am a queer identified man in a relationship with a queer identified woman. She has a daughter and we definitely get straight privilege when we are together. I think that I have to work extra hard to feel like I'm not buying into that privilege. <br /><br />I also feel marginalized for appearing straight to some queer folks. I am certainly marginalized when "being pansexual isn't something I necessarily want everyone to see" but that is me marginalizing myself (sometimes because I'm too tired to go into it.)<br /><br />As much as I feel marginalized and in between and not fitting in and as difficult as it seems to be, I always feel like I need to acknowledge and own my straight privilege, even though I would never identify myself as such.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-16623768153742918862011-08-30T22:27:29.556-07:002011-08-30T22:27:29.556-07:00So true. It's even more pronounced if you hav...So true. It's even more pronounced if you have a kid with your partner. You feel like you have to explain yourself to everyone, it's tiring to say the least.<br /><br />http://blog.kristincraiglai.com/2010/03/do-these-pants-make-me-look-straight.htmlTamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-85908061462509680312011-08-30T19:50:47.863-07:002011-08-30T19:50:47.863-07:00Thank you for posting this. Not only is it a very ...Thank you for posting this. Not only is it a very important topic in the grand scheme of the LGBTQIA civil rights movement, but it also is nice to learn more about you. I'll be completely honest: I did not know exactly what your sexual orientation was. While you're are certainly not required to disclose it, it does make it easier for other people to know where you are coming from, and to refer to you properly and respectfully as the person you are.<br /><br />With regards to bisexuality and pansexuality being invisible, YES, I wholeheartedly agree with that. It's funny how a couple can be in a primarily "gay place", like The Castro or West Hollywood, and if they "look straight", then people would automatically assume that they are either a straight ally, or enlightened friends of a gay person (or persons). I believe that most people don't immediately "go" to bisexuality or pansexuality.<br /><br />Oh, and I do agree about showing your colors. It's amazing the power just one little rainbow bracelet has! I mean, unless people stop you and ask you what your orientation is, then they may never know. (Unless you "look gay", which is stupid, but the stereotypes do exist.)<br /><br />The other really, really complex issue with bi- or pan- is how it relates to marriage equality. Simply put, a straight-appearing bisexual couple can legally get married, even though they are technically "queer". It just shows the absurdity of marriage discrimination.<br /><br />Again, thank you for posting this on your blog. I thoroughly enjoyed it, and applaud you for "coming out" to all of us.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-8842376593476702272011-08-25T05:46:00.122-07:002011-08-25T05:46:00.122-07:00Welcome to the club :)Welcome to the club :)Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-40960721454833909502011-08-25T01:22:42.206-07:002011-08-25T01:22:42.206-07:00Go, Caitlin! I didn't really have a definitive...Go, Caitlin! I didn't really have a definitive click-moment so much as a series of build-up events that led to a gradual realization, but I am totally relating anyway. The first time I actually called myself a feminist -- goodness, it feels weird to realize it -- was 7 years ago. It's a sometimes-difficult, mostly exhilarating, very often maddening, and always-FABULOUS journey. Welcome!LC Bathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09867980070785280566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-11006835716889875832011-08-24T22:45:55.210-07:002011-08-24T22:45:55.210-07:00Yeah, I will say it is completely effed up how the...Yeah, I will say it is completely effed up how there are people who have created those subreddits. Now, with that stated, Reddit doesn't post anything from those subreddits on the homepage or anywhere else that's easily accessible. I had no idea reddit had the r/beatingwomen and r/deadchildren subreddits until I read this article. You'd really have to search for this stuff on Google in order to find them.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-71021704882514876372011-08-24T18:36:44.714-07:002011-08-24T18:36:44.714-07:00I had a very similar click moment late last year. ...I had a very similar click moment late last year. It's a wild ride for the first few months as you continually trip over your old assumptions. Hold on to your hat!Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-23107268856907350892011-08-24T16:29:10.016-07:002011-08-24T16:29:10.016-07:00Sending a fistbump of solidarity your way, if you&...Sending a fistbump of solidarity your way, if you'd like it. I have been a feminist for as long as I can remember, and sometimes my brain still freaks out. Being able to ask yourself, "Whoa, where did that thought come from?" is an endlessly useful skill!Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-48533402394194304612011-08-24T14:05:02.691-07:002011-08-24T14:05:02.691-07:00Oh yes, over on The Border House we are repeatedly...Oh yes, over on The Border House we are repeatedly linked into a gaming Reddit -- and it brings an onslaught of trolls. I can't stand it. <br /><br />And yes, this isn't surprising to me either, just sad.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-47536328997062321042011-08-24T13:26:58.555-07:002011-08-24T13:26:58.555-07:00I am actually not surprised to see this kind of th...I am actually not surprised to see this kind of thing coning from Reddit at all. The people who use this social media site are all kinds of wrong. I tend to stick to the LGBT reddit and Feminism because those are the only two safe spaced in existence there. Anytime my blog has been linked on a surbreddit other than these two it has always brought some horrible trolls.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-59810076142865143932011-08-24T13:24:36.713-07:002011-08-24T13:24:36.713-07:00Thank you for this post! It brightened my day (an...Thank you for this post! It brightened my day (and I can definitely relate to it).Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-41022857571949309032011-08-24T12:29:50.390-07:002011-08-24T12:29:50.390-07:00I think the key is one of your last phrases: "...I think the key is one of your last phrases: "I think men are uncomfortable with having women as platonic friends unless they make a mental association between them and their male friends.", for two reasons: because platonic friendship with women is an scarce trait (reasonable from an evolutionary biology point of view) and because even if they feel like the friendship is a platonic relationship with someone from the opposite sex, with equal expectations and feelings as the woman involved, they just can't express it like that, and the words uttered are "you're like a bro", when they mean "I enjoy our platonic relationship but I don't have the language and self knowledge to say it like that"Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-76648809014580223642011-08-17T18:34:20.495-07:002011-08-17T18:34:20.495-07:00THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for this post. I am ...THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for this post. I am always nervous when this subject comes up on a feminist friendly site, for all the reasons you state. And it's important that you wrote this. Thank you thank you thank you.Elsewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09660761998630019319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-23490096156229205292011-08-17T17:31:14.937-07:002011-08-17T17:31:14.937-07:00Thanks for the thoughtful post. I personally strug...Thanks for the thoughtful post. I personally struggle with my own body image, and am always butting heads with myself when it comes to these issues... I consider myself a feminist, so I feel like I shouldn't be so paranoid about how I look, but then again I have low self-esteem... It's just a vicious cycle for me. But regarding your last question, I think it's more of an internal thing, for me at least, rather than feeling a feminist blacklash from other people.<br /><br />Then again, I don't really do "dieting," even if I change my eating habits slightly as you said to include less sugar or eat more fresh produce, I don't really consider that the same as going on a cranberry juice cleanse or what have you. It's just tweaking your lifestyle choices, and no one should give you a hard time about that. We change and adapt in all sorts of ways every day.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06637963404223994029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-74366616187234532832011-08-11T22:48:34.692-07:002011-08-11T22:48:34.692-07:00Thanks Mave, I didn't know about that one. :)...Thanks Mave, I didn't know about that one. :) I've updated the title.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830472244801929923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-86127226150239089222011-08-11T18:52:13.633-07:002011-08-11T18:52:13.633-07:00I'm going to say the title of this piece is a ...I'm going to say the title of this piece is a bit of a misnomer as there is a version without Kanye West and the one with him is almost a remix.<br /><br />So the one without him, might be a better song about BDSM or supernatural fetish, while the Kanye one is definitely about rape.Maverynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06442325558920806395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-28797495633048978432011-08-10T22:07:51.909-07:002011-08-10T22:07:51.909-07:00I think the key is one of your last phrases: "...I think the key is one of your last phrases: "I think men are uncomfortable with having women as platonic friends unless they make a mental association between them and their male friends.", for two reasons: because platonic friendship with women is an scarce trait (reasonable from an evolutionary biology point of view) and because even if they feel like the friendship is a platonic relationship with someone from the opposite sex, with equal expectations and feelings as the woman involved, they just can't express it like that, and the words uttered are "you're like a bro", when they mean "I enjoy our platonic relationship but I don't have the language and self knowledge to say it like that"Raulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14510468532668055432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5847286839557532612.post-21121822193525226852011-08-10T12:11:45.351-07:002011-08-10T12:11:45.351-07:00I think there is another way of interpreting the &...I think there is another way of interpreting the 'bro' reference, though I don't know if it's what the man in the story had in mind.<br /><br />There are many people devoted to maintaining the wall of separation between men and women, even building it higher. The 'bro' reference may refer to that wall being broken away between those two people, and the man meant to say that he felt comfortable relating to that woman as a person, and not as an archetype. It may not refer to discarded femininity at all.<br /><br />Of course, I could be completely wrong about this person's motivations. Still, I'm lucky enough to have lady friends with whom that barrier's gone. They're the best to sit and watch movies with :)MikhailBorghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01602695841028346194noreply@blogger.com